We all have workplaces that we go to where we spend the majority of our week working alongside other people – that we may refer to as colleagues, work mates and so on. Some will say they love their job and the people they work with – others will espouse the contrary, expressing their discontent and even distress about what they are experiencing in their respective work environment. This of course is not uncommon given the continuing escalation of bullying and harassing behaviours that are wide spread across the employment sector in many professions.
The world we live in – in its current state with all its realities that many find confronting and at times, difficult to deal with means that we need to begin to look at the deeper context in all this. The relationship we have with ourselves and the quality of that relationship – is key here as a first point of reference, to understand the outplay in our workplace relationships. Questions such as: How well am I truly taking care of myself? Do I eat food and drink that truly supports me and does not leave me feeling bloated, heavy, numb or stimulated? How am I sleeping at night, and how do I feel when I wake up in the morning? Simplistic and perhaps notional as these questions may first present themselves – they are in fact very pivotal in this discussion. In that – how we live with ourselves naturally determines how we will be in our relationships with our colleagues and other people in our lives.
If we are experiencing ongoing difficulty in our relationships in the workplace – it is very important that we look within ourselves in order to begin to get a sense of what is really going on. For it is never just a case of someone behaving in a particular way because they are a ‘bad person’ – abusive behaviours are always traced back to a way of living life that is disconnected – and directly influenced by one’s unresolved hurts. This is simple worldly truth – for indeed the Ageless Wisdom will always present things as they truly are in the world – in all its candour. Through deepening in connection with oneself, which is ultimately living connected to and expressing from our natural qualities of love, warmth and truthfulness (our essence or Soul) – allows us the opportunity to work with our colleagues whereby all of this can be brought to the fore in our everyday interactions and collaborations. These qualities are innately within us all – so indeed there is no ‘fluffiness’ here – only a real and tangible bringing of who we truly are – that is very significant in the addressing of this subject matter.
If we are to truly understand, as a humanity, how we can best experience relationships in our work places that are genuinely enriching, productive and actually deeply joyful, we need to deepen our understanding of ourselves in order to truly understand all others. It is ongoing – for there is never any ‘magical formula’ or supposed ‘perfect’ way of being and or behaving in our workplace relationships. The values of decency, respect, care and consideration for ourselves and others – is naturally a basic but foundational starting point. Indeed we also learn greatly through all that we experience in life, therefore – it is wise and of great value to embrace all that is offered to you in relationships with others.
We have captured in this brief article – some of the introductory key aspects for the reader to consider in terms of the deeper context in relation to us all – and our workplace relationships. Our workplaces need not be a ‘battle ground’ for that is just an old consciousness and mindset we need not buy into. In truth, our workplaces are ‘breeding grounds’ that are ripe for true relationships and ultimately – brotherhood. As always the responsibility and opportunity is forever there for us to step into – should we allow it for ourselves and all others.
Written by Rachel Lynwood
Rachel Lynwood Associate Professor; BA (Philosophy & Sociology) (UNSW); BA (Hons) (SCU); MEd (UTS)
Rachel has 23 years experience in the Higher & Tertiary education sector. Currently Deputy Director – Gnibi Wandarahn School of Indigenous Knowledge, Southern Cross University; Chair SCU Reconciliation Action Plan Committee; Chair of SCU Reconciliation Action Plan (Executive) Committee. Director of Academic Programs; Community Engagement; Researcher; Lecturer; Chair of School Board Gnibi Wandarahn School of Indigenous Knowledge; Deputy Chair SCU Indigenous Education Strategy Committee. Co-chair Gnibi Wandarahn Elders Council, Southern Cross University.